Monday, October 26, 2009

8 Powerful Ways to Release Pressure from Your Life

1. Don’t listen too much to others.
Or worry about what they might think. Or getting their validation. If you use too much time and energy to focus on these three things you may be heading down a pretty harmful road. An important part of this is to not to see yourself through the eyes of others. Doing that can build a self-image and expectations that become very hard to live up to. It can make you end up filled up with negative feelings and that won’t help anyone.

(yea, believe in yourself, believe in whatever you're doing)

2. Forget about perfectionism
Perfectionism is pretty pointless. It's just you putting unnecessary pressure on yourself and thereby reducing your ability to do excellent work. Take a look at the next point to find a better replacement for perfectionism.

(i STRONGLY agree on this. nobody is perfect! i always keep this in mind)
p/s: i would like to dedicate this point to that someone

3. Focus on the process, not on the outcome.
Detaching from the possible outcomes and just keeping your focus on the work you are doing makes it easier to both live and live up to your potential by reducing many of your inner, mental obstacles such as performance anxiety and other worries.

(well, i should try practice on this...)

4. Be OK with mistakes and failure.
This one ties in to the two previous tips. If you allow yourself to redefine mistakes you´ll be less prone to get yourself stuck in perfectionism.
The morning of the day when you learned to ride a bike you fell off it time and time again. But you just brushed yourself off, perhaps cried for a minute or two and then you got up on the bike again. And towards the afternoon, or the next day, you probably started to become pretty good at riding your bike.

(this point is also dedicated to that someone, bear in mind, everyone makes mistakes)

5. Just do it!
If you often get stuck in procrastination and get little done the pressure can start to build up. “Just doing it” is a great way to get out of an overthinking or procrastinating state and just get going with what you want to do.

(good point!)

6. Cut down on busywork and unimportant stuff
Feeling like you just have too much to do and too little time for the most important things? Then you probably need to do some decluttering in your life. Eliminate some of the less important stuff.

(i think this is very much related to prioritization in whatever we're doing)

7. Don’t take things too seriously.
I´m not saying that you shouldn´t do a good job. Or that you should avoid responsibility. But having the attitude that the sky will fall down if something goes wrong is most often inaccurate outside of your own head. And it´s not a good headspace to be in to perform or feel well.
Realise you have a choice about what attitude you should adopt, just like with what you choose to do/not do. It might take some time to replace an old and ingrained habit for another. But over time you can do it

(in another word, dont be so calculative on every single little things. you'll eventually make you life happier)

8. Take 30 belly breaths
- Sit in a relaxing position with your legs apart.
- Put your hands on your stomach. Using your stomach breathe in slowly through your nose. If you are doing it right your stomach will expand and you´ll feel it with your hands.
- Breathe out slowly through your nose and do it with some force so you feel your stomach pull slightly inwards towards your spine.
- Breathe in and out 30 times. Take slow and deep breaths.
- After you have taken 30 breaths and focused on counting them you should not only feel more relaxed and centered. Your body will also be able to continue breathing in this manner without you focusing on it. And that´s it. Continue with your normal day.

(i think i really need to try this if i'm under pressure.. )

source taken from here

2 comments:

  1. All the points are so suitable the "someone" la! Should secretly send to you, may be can use anonymous account.

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  2. yan, haha. if i can find a way to secretly send to him.. wakaka..

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