1. Never go to bed angry
I once received a booklet from a wedding studio during a bridal fair, and inside there are tips of a happy marriage. i remember this tip so vividly! i think this is very important. before i got married and while i was study at KL, we sometimes argued and hung up the phone just like that, without thinking about the consequences. to me, it was like, 'so what? now that we argue, but i know we'll be fine tomorrow when he calls me.' but the thing is, if one of us did not take the 1st step to make things alright, the problem will only grow deeper though we still speak to each other. it will be just a temporary solution.
2. Always be 100% honest
To me, honesty is the most important ingredient in a relationship/marriage. sometimes honesty may hurts, but come to think about it, is it better to know the truth from your partner rather than knowing it from someone else's mouth?
3. Never vacation without each other
The received wisdom here is that if you have time off from your jobs and lives, you should naturally prefer to spend it together. But one problem with this rule is that you and your spouse may not have the same definition of a great getaway, (you like to ski, he’s a beach bum). So just be sure that you don’t always take off without each other. (most of the times, we go for holiday together)
4. If you fight, you're headed for divorce
Of course some couples fight, but its important to find ways to fight healthily and productively (without blaming, name-calling and the like). constant fighting will not solve any problems.
5. Once you have children, they come first
Making your relationship top priority is better not just for you, but for your children, who need to see you in charge and who feel safer and more secure with parents who have a loving relationship. though i have not have any children yet, i believe they are innocent and should always come first.
6. You should never sleep in separate beds
It’s a myth that couples always sleep better and more cozily together than apart. One partner may be a toss-and-turner, or one may hit the hay early while the other keeps a reading light burning till the wee hours. So if one of you occasionally decamps to the guest room, don’t sweat it. Just be sure a separate-bed habit isn’t about avoiding intimacy.
7. Partners should sync up their hobbies
Pursue your separate interests and find activities you both enjoy. erm, ok, my hubby likes PS3, so perhaps its time for me to learn to enjoy using the joystick too =_=
8. If there’s no spark, you’re doomed
Many married couples understand intellectually that they won’t always experience that I’ve-been-drugged-by-love feeling in a long-term relationship. But many still believe that when the spark dies out, it means they’re in the wrong relationship, and seek something new. Long-term relationships survive on commitment and trust, out of which grows love.
9. Boring is bad
A drama-filled relationship may feel exciting, but in the long run it’s not likely to be healthy. anyway love expert believes that it's ok to occasionally have a safe, relaxed, ‘boring’ life together in the everyday because you can always inject excitement with vacations and activities.