Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Are you ready?

Image taken from an online source

Last few weeks, several friends of mine posted the above photo in FB and I could quickly associated with it. Ok if you can't read Chinese, let me translate for you:
" In the coming month(during CNY) you'll probably be annoyed by these few questions:
- When will you graduate?
- Going to college/Uni?
- Have you got a job?
- Are you seeing someone at the moment?
- When are you going to get married?
- When are you going to get pregnant?
- How much is your salary?
Bla bla bla bla..............."

The 2 questions highlighted in bold are the most common question those aunties uncles would ask. I've been through it and seriously it's damn annoying. While CNY is a great time for everyone to get together, this is the part I hate the most. Elderly would never get bored by asking those questions again and again.

自从结婚过后,每逢过年一想到要面对那些三姑六婆姨妈姑姐,我都会提心吊胆很烦。这些问题肯定‘入围’滴 (尤其是那个‘你们几时要小孩啊?’), 跑不掉。加上老公那边亲戚特别多,所以当时的压力特别大。当然我是不必给他们交待啦,不过想象一下如果每个人都酱问你,难道你的头不大吗?>.<

更烦的是,不管你怎样回答,他们都会继续帮你洗脑,‘早生好啊,快快生2-3个,过后你就sinang鸟。。’ 喂你说要生就生 meh?

好啦,去年过年时我已经怀孕了,暂时安全。今年,虽说宝贝已经快9个月了,不过我知道那些长辈们肯定还有东西问的,就比如说‘几时要第二个啊?唉哟快快啦,一次过生,反正也是要顾的,就一次过顾。。。’
还有,早从几个月前人人就开始问我‘So你不打算做工料啦?’就连我的朋友们都酱问(啊你们怎么可以酱对我!!)。一开始时我还很开心的跟他们分享 ok, 就说‘看看怎样先啦,等Aden大一些再打算’。不过接下来我就开始很不耐烦了,就很简单的说‘不一定’。我咧是属于比较文静的人(吐),我不像有些人很坦白,terang terang讲话,所以我没办法直接摆臭脸。。(所以说有时我满羡慕那些勇于表达自我的人,至少可以逃过很多烦人的问题).

This year, I have Aden with me, but the elderly would sure have something else to ask, can you guess?
Yep, they would ask 'When you wanna get number 2?' and so on. It's a never ending cycles. (Well, may be I'd become like this too when I grow old, haha!)

And besides this, I knew many will also ask me 'so are you planning to become a SAHM forever?'. I just answered 'may be', perhaps some of them are concern about me but sorry, it's really annoying. Some of them would think that it's a waste for me to stay home looking after baby because I have a degree. But to me, sometimes things cannot be judged this way. 

But apart from all this dramas, I am thankful that my own family, hubby and in laws never bother me with these questions. (Erm except that my father did asked me when I wanna get a brother/sister for Aden =_=)

Anyway, are you ready for those questions this CNY?

56 comments:

  1. never a surprise, those kay-poh relatives will always have lots of questions to ask.. sometimes it really makes me feel like they are interrogating and invading my own privacy..

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    1. this photo is not yet the funniest lah.. i have seen other posts on FB that talks about how to response to all these annoying nonsense questions.. now, those responses are really hilarious and probably could make your relatives shut up their mouths immediately~~

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    2. now with Aden, don't you think you will be able to escape from their questioning sessions!! hahahaha.. be prepared to answer, or always make taking care of Aden as an excuse to avoid them, haha!!

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    3. Ya, I can imagine that...

      Well, as usual, I'll just smile and try to change topics, haha xD

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  2. 被问结婚和生孩子我是不太care,笑笑就好!最显就是被问花红几个月?尤其是别人没有花红拿,这样一问,就等于拿刀捅进我胸口上。>.<

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    1. 哈哈,花红更敏感咯。。很私人的东西咧~

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  3. well, may be they are just too concern. Just be cool and smile..like I used to do when I was your age..

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    1. wenn, that's why I think also, may be they are just concern.. But same people ask that question every time he/she sees me >.<

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  4. SIGH* i dunno how to ans when all these questions come like bomb raining on me. hahaha but i can imagine next time when im old i will b the one asking the youngsters HAHA

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    1. Haha nevermind, we can revenge when we grow old!!

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  5. 我现在会被问的也是
    “你没有打算再做工了咩” (这个我很直接的回答“没有!!” 呵呵~~)
    “你不要生一个女儿咩?” (我的标准答案:“你包我一定生女的我就生咯~~”)
    “你老公的公司给多少红包(花红)?”(我老公的花红也要问我???直接回答:“没有!!”)

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    1. 哈哈是咯,如果包生女的肯定生!!

      我个人觉得薪水和花红是很私人的问题耶。。我从来不过问人家的花红。。

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  6. 哈哈,我也常被问什么时候要生第二胎><不过我通常都一笑置之,因为懒惰回答。。再不然就假假听不到!!

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    1. 哈哈嗯,假假听不到,然后想办法转话题~

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  7. LOL!!! Cute picture. Lucky you, this year, got extra member receiving BIG ang pao....

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    1. Yea STP, time to 'revenge'!! *evil grin*

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  8. hahahahaha... this is why i hate gatherings specially with relatives..they just can't help but compare your fate to some one else's fate

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    1. Yea, quite annoying ya? There's no point comparing.

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  9. Ah~ I seldom face with such situation, maybe my relatives are not nosy enough? Plus, we hardly go visiting relatives from my hubb side who stay in KL.

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    1. They have nothing good to say, 'cari bakul' to start the conversation, lo~

      I sometimes give ambiguous answers to them like, "see first", "don't know" or maybe just keep quiet and smile.

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    2. Lucky you!

      Yes that's what I am trying to do, just smile and may be walk away.. LOL.

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  10. Even after you have 2nd child, the KPC ones will keep asking when is the 3rd one coming in.

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    1. I still have friends and relatives asking me such questions T_T

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    2. Yea sure one! Never ending questions!

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  11. My husband's relatives also like to ask me," Why don't you try for 3rd baby? You may get a boy." I will politely explain to them, since I see them once a year only.

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    1. Don't need to get frustration at their questions. They sure will get bored one day and stop asking all these questions.

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    2. We can't control others, but we can't control our own feeling and emotion. So, just be prepare and get ourselves mentally ready. No sweats, and no worries.

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    3. Yes I understand Yan, but sometimes just feel annoyed, hehe..

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  12. Haha..I know what you mean. I just take it as a pinch of salt. I don't take it to heart..listen only la.

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  13. well I think that they are just want to have a conversation..

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    1. maybe think on the positive side..
      they just care about you and ask you these questions..

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    2. actually my mum and dad also like that..
      but I explain to them not to ask personal questions to my relatives..
      just talk about general things and current issue..
      cause some people are quite sensitive on these matters..

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    3. Yes I agree, some topics are just too sensitive to discuss like this.

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  14. Luckily I don't have many such people in my family and YM's family? Every year I just spend a min hours at his place, and they are not close to me so usually they leave me alone.

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    1. Yea good for you YT! Otherwise you'll be bothered by the question 'when you wanna get pregnant' and so on... =_=

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  15. [几时生?]

    我通常都会答他们[很快了!很快了!]

    哈哈哈哈

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  16. 哈哈哈!!!新年必被问的!我觉得很烦的!所以去年我也蛮开心的,一直顶着大肚子指给他们看!哈哈哈哈哈!!!!!

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  17. Pixz is so 'catchy' wow true face of those 3 gu 6 por?. Btw apa itu SAHM? Agree these are the common questions. Dunno why they have nothing better to ask?

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    1. Oh SAHM is Stay At Home Mum, hehe...

      Ya I also wonder...

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  18. OMG!!STOP STOP STOP!!我开始很厌倦人家问我几时结婚了~唉~
    话说那天,我和3个朋友吃饭,我们4个都还没有结婚,而我的年纪最小,结果吃到很开心的时候,突然其中一个问我:“什么时候结婚?”那个气氛突然down掉。然后其中一个最大年级的就说:“每次都要问这些衰事!”哈哈~笑死了~

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  19. The same old questions...but luckily i'm married and have a kid now. Hahaha...but most of the time, they try to strike a conversation with you only, just like how we are how are you. But they are doing it in a different way. Just be patient with them :)

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    1. Then you must be the one asking those questions? Haha, kidding la~

      Be patient? Hmm yea right~

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  20. Haha! Biasalah. Now I seldom been bother by those questions. And by the way, you are the winner of my blog giveaway. Congratulations dear. Watch out for my official announcement in my blog later!

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    1. Well very good then Rose.

      Yes I knew!! Thanks a lot dear!

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  21. (我迟来留言,你已经po两个文了......我来了来了~~)

    我也很害怕新年一直被人问东问西,beh tahan,我一直被问几时要结婚,几时要孩子!我说还没有结婚,不急孩子,就继续说注册了就快点有孩子,然后又问那么什么时候结婚.............
    好烦.....好烦................哇哈哈哈哈哈哈哈!

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    1. 哈哈就是 hor!没完没了的。。。

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  22. this coming CNY I will be . . . haiyah enjoy with friend lo . . .

    I bet some of my relative gonna go hang kai soon . . . cross state or go oversea LOL XD

    so I think I no need to worry about it bah

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  23. Every CNY they will ask when is my kidod coming along. Either I point to my hubby and I and say here we are the 2 kids... OR point to my furkid.

    This year my answer is " I turn big 4 this year..."

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