Friday, February 7, 2014

Time can prove a lot

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Well, a small conflict happened lately on a friend, erm shall I say there're a few of them involved. To me the third party, it's just a very small case. But one of them make the whole thing sounds very serious and worst, he blamed the rest for causing this conflict =_=

It's a long story which I shall not elaborate too much, all I can say is it's a misunderstanding. It makes me realize that communication is so important, not only among husband and wife but also with friends. 
The conflict also taught me to not only use my eyes to see a person clearly, but with TIME.

Anyway, here wishing you all a happy and safe weekend! Cheers!

其实这个马年也不算开始得很顺利,因为在友人之间发生了一些不愉快的事。
对于我这个‘外人’来说,其实是很小事罢了,纯粹一场误会。不过就因为一个人不成熟的思想,搞到好像很大件事!

到底是什么事呢?我想我不方便说,不过这件事让我明白沟通很重要。
最重要的是,我们要用时间看人,而不是用眼睛 =)


28 comments:

  1. 我就曾中过一些不愉快的事情,真的切切实实让我体会到朋友不是用眼睛看的,心也会被所见的蒙掉,时间是最好的证明!

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  2. 祝你新年快乐!
    希望你事事顺心~~

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  3. 很多时候我都是这样的,这种情况我的经验几乎可以写成一本书(夸张? 没有!)一切开始于我说话很直,所以让到很多人不喜欢我! 但是有一些朋友又想要做很好的样子,所以人前对我很好,转个头就是狂插很多刀。。。所以有时候是要学习聪明一点,有些事是一定要当面说清楚,有些就是美丽的谎言,但是终究还是谎言,久了就会成误会,时间也会让真相露面,所以适当的沟通是必要的!!!

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  4. Hhmmmm, I don't quite understand how to see a person clearly with time. Did you all clear the misunderstanding for your friend?

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  5. The Chinese has a saying: You know the person, you know his face but you do not know his heart...and in the Bible, it says: Do unto others what you want others do unto you. Good to remember this in one's relationship with others.

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  6. It's especially to certain sensitive friends who got heated up easily and without finding the truth. Well, sometimes you have to move on.. like what STP quoted, do good to others... but then, if others do not reciprocate, then move on.

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  7. well well well, i think as an outsider you will see things more clearly, more rationally and more optimistically.. many times you find those who are caught between are actually making such a big fuss over very small little things..

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    1. but then it can always be tough for the outsiders to explain and to convince those who were involved to pull themselves out of the box and see from a different angle.. and at least this incident actually gave you a good lesson, and you are right about it, you see more of a person as time goes.. things can hide temporarily but not forever, there is always one day it is being unveiled..

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    2. wishing you and your family a happy and safe weekend too~~ :)

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  8. 時間真的是最好的證明,因為即使心有時候也會作弊!

    BTW,收到妳的卡片了。:)
    非常謝謝你哦,還有祝你新年萬歲哦!

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  9. It takes time to know a people, as when u start to know a people, you will only see the outside and not the inside...

    Happy Weekend...

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  10. 別想那麼多。新年嘛,把不開心的全拋開腦後!

    祝:順順利利!

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  11. 这应该是所谓的路遥知马力,日久见人心吧!
    忘掉不开心的 事吧!

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  12. This is tricky and harf to understand. But telling you the truth. I have been married for almost 10 years and still I argue and have misunderstanding with my hubby once a while. But everytime we make and find way to resolve our differences. And I feel our respect and love for each others grow along the way.

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  13. misunderstanding can happen anytime. Because we can't always see eye to eye with anyone. Anyway, it can be solved when we clarify the situation.

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  14. 这是终身都必须学习的, 人和人相处不容易啊!

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  15. Misunderstanding happen if we are not direct about it.

    Hope you had/are having a great weekend! :)

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  16. 想念小时候的单纯 没有大人们的是是非非

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  17. Yes, totally agree with you. Do not judge the book by the cover....
    Time tells a lot and time heals too ...

    Happy CNY, Happy Valentine's Day and Happy Chap Goh Mei :)

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  18. Humans can be very scary and words could kill anyone. I had seen too many and enough! If one could follow the good teachings of religions, then the world would be peaceful. The war is still raging overseas with senseless killings. Here in our own neighbourhoods of Malaysia, we also heard of lover's quarrels and killings! Scary la!

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    1. I would like to wish you and family a Happy Chap God Meh & Happy Valentine's Day too.

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    2. I would like to wish you and family a "Happy Chap Goh Meh" & Happy Valentine's Day too.

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  19. Susah mau cakap as 3rd party. Best is big matter become small, small matter become none la.

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  20. You are right!!! Time will really show the real skin color of anyone. Hope things will be better. xx

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  21. Anyway, I really agree with you that communication is very important. Every normal person should used brain unless they are retard. I know how iritating is that, I've been that situation till I choose to forget as to forgive.

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  22. Communication is very important if not there will be a lot of misunderstanding

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  23. Life is quite interesting. Some days we think we know...but actually we may not know so well after all. This includes characters.

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