Wednesday, July 16, 2014

iPad, yes or no?

*Warning: long post ahead*


I mentioned HERE that Aden is super addicted to iPad lately. 
He sure knows where we put it, and will demand for it, and even though when we are charging it, he will cabut the cable right away.

He already mimic his daddy of how to play the iPad, sometimes on the bed (like the photo above), sometimes with the iPad on the 'standing' position with the helps of the casing, and the latest one, half lying on the bed with the iPad on the belly, but of course he can't hold that position for long since the iPad is too heavy for his small belly.

So what's so interesting with the iPad? Beginning he played those toddler/preschooler games like matching colors/shape, singing and etc, then slowly upgraded to not-so-toddler's games like Talking Tom, car racing and HappyChef (He really knows how to play them after being taught a few times, in fact he can play the iPad so well he even teach my parents =_=). But one thing he doesn't know yet, key in the passcode :p

Now, he loves Youtube >.< Of course he don't know how to search for videos, basically he just scroll the page and simply click on any video on the 'what to watch' and 'recommended video' list. Then from there he clicks further to explore other videos. 
Sometimes he will request for certain videos which he has watched before (of those that I played for him before), like PSY songs, car commercials (especially from Honda, I tell you this boy loves car very much!), M club (the HK drama Never Dance Alone), some English MVs and lately, the kids' play dough video.

Ok so here's the point, I know I (and the daddy) am responsible for his addiction since we the adults is the reason why he knows iPad, and at this stage he is learning fast by just watching us swiping/tapping the screen. 
I do feel guilty, really, cause I know it's unhealthy and bad for the eyes. I once read an article about a 3-year-old (or is it 5-year-old?) child having serious short shortsightedness due to daily long hours playing with iPad. I have no idea on the validity of this news but I remember this news until today. 

BUT, I have to admit, when he's on iPad, I really can have time to do my own chores, without needing to worry that he'd throw things from upstair to downstair, or ransack my stuff, or play with the water dispenser, cause he can really stick to it for quite long! If without the iPad, he'll sure come glue to me no matter what I am doing.

Now that he's addicted, I really don't know how to stop him... When we don't give him, he'll started to throw tantrum and scream his lung out, I tried to distract his attention by giving him snacks and toys but usually they won't work. 
I guess we have to keep the iPad clear from his vision from now on (so that it can sorta helps him forget about it?), but I don't know how the daddy is going to cope with it since he is also very addicted to the iPad =_=

Anyway, I make sure there's no iPad when we're at outside like during dining, not even handphones unless really necessary. I can see lots of kids (even adults) these days are busy keeping their heads down and playing with their phones when they are waiting for the food to be served. 
When I was a kid, I just want to go and play with the sands next to the restaurant while waiting for the food to be served, or go chasing around at the carpark with my siblings, or go and chase pat the stray dogs and cats I see nearby the restaurant (of course there's no smartphones or iPad or tablet back then). Now, throw a kid a tablet and he'll sit there quietly. Well, I guess that's just how the world has changed huh? 

早前有提到说Aden最近很迷iPad而另到我很担心。
他知道我们把iPad放在哪里,就算在充电着他也不管自己拔掉(还是硬来的那种)cable.

现在玩iPad的程度是厉害到连坐姿都学他老爸一样,不是趴在地上/床上玩,就是半躺着把iPad放在肚子上玩,当然这pose维持不久因为他的小肚子撑不住iPad的重量。
一开始玩得是儿童游戏好像唱歌或者配形状/颜色的那种,后来就开始玩一些比较难的就像是Talking Tom,赛车,煮菜(HappyChef)等。虽然是比较难(对一个2岁的小孩来说算是比较难的了)不过教了他玩几次他就学会了,甚至很得意的玩给我爸妈看(我都不懂该高兴好还是伤心)。
而最近迷的是Youtube!开过一些video给他过后他就记得了会要求我再开,比如那些汽车广告(他超喜欢车!尤其是轮胎),MV (尤其是PSY的,还有最近Shakira那首World Cup的歌),和粘土的video。当然他还不会自己search video来看,他都是在homepage那里乱按,不过乱按归乱按,有时还真的给他按对喔!

Ok,我要说的是,我知道这些3C产品对小孩来说是不健康而也对眼睛不好。我看过一册报道说一名3岁(忘了是3岁还是5岁,总之是很小啦)的儿童因为每天玩iPad的关系而导致严重近视!我不懂是真是假不过我就对这新闻影像很深刻!
其实我真的觉得很有罪恶感啦,我知道是我们大人该负的责任,要不是他看到我们玩iPad他也不会懂怎么玩等等。不过我想说,当他在玩iPad时我真的可以专心做我的东西,就算是几分钟也好我也可以做很多事情了。要不然他一定来找我当我的贴身药膏了。

我真的不懂该怎么control他了,每次都说好‘玩一下就好’不过到最后他都不愿意还给我的,如果硬拿走他就会大哭发脾气,甚至拿零食/玩具骗他他也不要,有时我也不管了硬拿回来给他哭一下。
看来我们真的该把iPad收起来,至少不要在他面前玩。希望这样他会慢慢忘掉吧?不过我不知道他老爸可以做到没有因为他自己也很迷iPad >.<

不过不管怎样,出到外面我们肯定不带iPad,也尽量不给电话(除非必不得已)。
现在的人在用餐或等菜送到时都是忙着玩电话做低头族。几乎每个小孩手里都有电话iPad等等。
以前的我呢,只想到外面玩!去隔壁的停车场跟哥哥玩老鹰捉小鸡,或者去欺负摸摸附近的猫猫狗狗。现在的孩子们只要有iPad在手就会坐静静了。我想这就是时代的变化吧?

70 comments:

  1. When i was young, there's no such things as Ipad, so play whatever there is...

    Now with Ipad around, we adults (mostly) are 低头族, kids will b influence n also play with Ipad n addicted to it...

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    1. You are right, that's my thoughts too!

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  2. Aikks publishing at this hour? Now tengah jam so I can comment a bit..
    Nowadays kids are attached to the pad or tab.. Cant deprive them but at the same time cant let them get too addicted to it.. But if you ask me, yes to the pad, it is the most powerful and useful babysitting tool.. hehe

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    1. I can't be a hypocrite and condemn the pad or tab, coz I'm using it myself.. I let Kz use it when I want to do some house chores.. And on weekends, I let him use the tab so that I can breathe a little.. Hubby works like all the time, weekends, public holidays, sigh.. I need to get some sanity.. BUT having said that, please don't let Aden get too addicted to the pad.. He dares to throw tantrums coz you "jung wai" him liao izzit, or you are not strict enuff.. Hehe..

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    2. You jam also can tuk tuk ar? Geng! But I suggest you to concentrate on the road, haha!
      Correct, can't deny it's a powerful babysitting tool xD

      Wow, you seems really busy but tough on your own, good!
      Yes, I certainly do not want him to get over addicted to iPad.
      Huh? I think I am strict and fierce, I scold him I cane him, I let him cry at the side, but this boy just isn't afraid of anyone!

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  3. Times have changed so drastically. I really don't know how to respond on this issue because I don't have kids. I would think that it is not so ideal for a young child to be "addicted" to the ipad. But this gadget is so common and since the parents use it, it can't be helped if the kid gets exposed to it as well. Perhaps, to limit the amount of time your kiddo use the iPad? I know it's hard especially when kids throw tantrum, Back in the old days, we dare not throw tantrum because parents were super strict then hah..hah...

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    1. I get your point Phong Hong.
      Actually I do limit his time on the iPad but when I try to take it away, he will starts throwing tantrums!

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  4. Smart and cute little fellow..

    -May- at:http://capturingthyinterest.blogspot.com/ .

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  5. My kids won't take i-Thingys without permission. They don't play on weekdays. Even weekends oso must with permission. It's how we control our kids though. :)

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    1. I think your kids are 'big' enough to understand....

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  6. Everything in moderation should be OK

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  7. everything in moderation should be OK. :)

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    1. So coincident one, your comment sebiji like Bananaz above ;)

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  8. hmmm.. i think all the parents are faced with this problem lah but then it has also become a gradual acceptance and inclusion of iPad into life.. but then call me jakun lah, i don't have one, haha!! my old iPhone is good enough lah~~

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    1. well, i think the issue here with you is not the problem with long hours playing with iPad but you are not strict enough to set a rule.. throwing tantrum, let it be, the kid just want to get your attention.. you really have to 狠下心腸 for just one time and when they know throwing tantrum does nothing to help, they will not do that again..

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    2. let him know you are the one who set the rules, you are the one who say yes and no, not him.. only being good, he will be allowed his daily allowance on playing with the iPad, if he is not being good, then he is sorry for what he has done.. just gotta be stern.. and not just give in by throwing him an iPad whenever he throws tantrum.. you have to try 1001 ways to stop that.. of course i know it's easier said than done, but then if iPad is the problem you are worried, then you just gotta do something..

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    3. of course you cannot totally hide the iPad from him.. kids still need to learn and i think you have to be with him and not let him play the iPad alone.. he is still a toddler and need guidance lah.. they learn fast, and this is what we want to take opportunity at, get him to learn something useful.. i do not disagree kids playing with all these gadgets, and indeed it would be good for them to learn since that is the trend.. but then there must always be a limit and rules must be set, this is where parents play their role in bringing up the children.. okay, i have no kids so i can just talk talk talk lah, haha!! i know it may not be easy for you especially when you are the one facing your 心肝寶貝~~ :)

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    4. Hmm, no iPad is not jakun la, in fact it's good! No need spend money on that and won't get addicted ;)

      Haiz, you don't know only, I yell like siao lang everyday, actually not yelling la but I was really strict when it comes to disclipning Aden, but he is just not afraid of anyone!
      狠下心腸, I know, but it's easy to say than act lo!

      Anyway thanks for the comment! Appreciate it!

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  9. My wife and I alao restricting our kids from too much tablet computing. We only allowed them to play on weekends. We realised it's getting worse and we have to put a stop on it. They are like playing it non stop the whole day if we are not gong out. And , my kid already short sighted. Worst still , I got blamed by my wifey did introducing these gadgets to them !!

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    1. Yes I understand, really non stop one!

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  10. Try getting him some toys to play with....those that he like and play some cartoons on TV at times to distract him.

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    1. He got lots of toys la actually, but all also boring already xD

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  11. I can totally relate to what your concerns are. It was a couple months ago when my son was addicted to iphone/ipad. But I've changed it completely by limiting him. I say about 1hr per day? Sometimes if we hide it and not use it - he wont be asking for it. Its an habit but very hard to train in the beginning. Now we used the Ipad for potty training only - the only way to get him to sit still and pee. I'm thinking of taking the ipad away after he fully learns how to potty train. During dinner outing - we usually dont give him ipad - I bring books and cars out for him. Sometimes he can be good but if it doesn't work - we give it to him for 10 minutes so we can quickly finish our food quickly.

    Its tough these days because everyone around us is using an ipad/tablet/phone 24/7. But my son did learn a lot through youtube videos. Alphabets and numbers. That's the good thing about it but I am still concern about eyesight too.

    Aden will slowly learn :)

    xoxo Jen at www.JensLifestyle.com

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    1. Yes, there're good things about using iPad also, anyway, it's true, it's hard especially in the beginning!
      But, no choice, have to hang in there also right? Thanks for sharing!

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  12. Yes. Great practice, Hayley. No ipad or phone games on dining table. I did the same to my kids too. Otherwise 24hours on ipad and their daddy nagging about it.

    Now only limit to night time about an hour before go to sleep, as long finish all homeworks and done witg revision. Otherwise no.

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    1. Yes, no iPad when outside, plus it's troublesome to bring iPad out also, heavy la!

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  13. Everybody's doing it. As the saying goes, if you can't beat them, join them.

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  14. 我觉得父母影响力最大所以我现在都尽量少在孩子面前玩电话,不动是不可能啦LOL但是晚上的话儿子要我陪他玩,会过来说妈咪关起来料,一起玩,呵呵~

    我觉得习惯可以慢慢培养的,尝试把ipad收起来看看,当然偶尔还是可以给他玩,现在的社会很矛盾,不要接触电子产品太多但也不能完全一点儿都不懂,我是觉得他们再大些再接触也是可以学很快啦,现在或许你可以找其他吸引他的玩意儿给他玩,这样他专注玩你就可以多多少少有些私人时间了。Ipad要给就给限定时间咯~其实不管怎样,你们达成共识就好,毕竟家家有自己的教育方式,就做自己相信的教育方式~

    用餐不给电子产品这个我非常坚持(最主要我家那个也没完全有疯这些xD),我不支持父母一用餐就把ipad iphone丢给孩子搞定他们~ 少了很多亲子时光,用餐也可以享受亲子时光呀 =)

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    1. 嗯,我明白,有好有坏。
      限定时间我有啊!不过每当我要拿走时他就开始吵了!!好好说的他也不要。

      嗯,用餐时间绝对没有iPad,要不然真的会习惯的!

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  15. I limit the usage time for both my kids. Nothing to be worry and you're doing a good job. Bring him out for other activities and as usual you'll bring him for a swim... slowly he will get rid of the Ipad very soon. He still can play but not always. My girl loves to play Pao and sometimes know how to click many apps because she learnt from her kor kor.

    Calvin now not only playing games, but I train him to use Ipad for other useful function like search the name and get to read the meanings and followed by the photo to have a better picture. E.g: he wanted to know what is leech, then of course is gross but it is a stage to learn and alert of this sucking blood thingy.

    There is always pros and cons for having a gadget at home for the kids. Just stop him and the best is not to used more than 1hour... I think it is fine...

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    1. Sorry to say I really don't like parents will put the ipad on the dining table so the kid can sit down quietly so the parents can feed them slowly. Com on, for me I feed my kids for porridge time, in about 10mins and it is done.

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    2. I agree that parents should not allow their kids to eat and play or watch iPad. The worst is both parents play their phones while eating in the restaurants while 3 kids play their own gadgets. It is so common in KL now. The world is going crazy!

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    3. TM,haha totally get the point, actually not only in KL, here also same, even the whole family including the daddy and mummy are playing with phones!

      Angeline, I got what you mean! Thanks for sharing!
      I agree, there're pros and cons, so I guess just have to balance up~

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  16. 我也有这样的矛盾,目前能做的就是尽量减少在孩子面前用3C产品,自制很重要!

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  17. Gosh...I also encounter same problem...
    I'll throw my phone to my girl so she'll sit quietly during dining (what a lazy mum i am T-T )
    But sometimes she learn words from the education apps...

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    1. Haha, I am a lazy mum too, sometimes :p

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  18. During my time.. no gadgets.. either sit down and finished the dinner quietly or I would be giving the Eye Stabbing Stares to my kids... hahahaa.. ok, not me lar.. I am not so strict one.. but my late hubby was.. he just have to give them a look and my kids would be scared.. and he never even caned them before.. funny hor? Sometimes the personality is there to make them scared.. hahaha...

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    1. Hmm, last time punya children more discipline hor? My time also same, must sit down and wait, cannot play this play that one!

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  19. I totally understand how you feel! I have a niece now also very addicted to the smartphone and although it's unhealthy but she is always very quite and all with it so we can enjoy ourselves!

    So I know it is tough to choose between letting them play or not.... Hmmm... Perhaps limit the time of usage? Or make it as a reward for Aden whenever he does something good? Like I don't know, finish your dinner and you get the ipad...

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    1. Sounds just like Aden!

      Limit the usage time, I do! But when I am about to take it away, he'll start throwing tantrums! He seems 'not understand' the deal we made before... >.<

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  20. 我的一个朋友,有2个儿子,也是沉迷ipad,大儿子6岁,小儿子4岁,一个近视500,一个300多,所以每次看到他们都是戴着眼镜的。
    我没有孩子,不过我知道孩子缠身的烦恼,所以了解你所面对的问题。
    我不是很认同给小孩玩ipad (虽然我不知道以后我会不会也面对这样的问题),但是我觉得如果现在可以补救,就尽量想办法,mayb可以买其他玩具转移视线?(sorry,我没有经验,其实也提供不了什么意见)。

    只是你最后说的,我们小时候,真的就是石头当玩具,泥沙当mama刹,随便一样东西就是我们的玩具了,我怀念我们的时代。

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    1. 没关系,谢谢你的留言!

      对啊,我也很怀念我们的时代,简单,不过很快乐!

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  21. 小时候的我们最大的乐趣就是在外面的空地玩泥沙玩苍蝇玩蜘蛛玩抓迷藏等等等等,现在的小孩真的不一样了。
    但是我的话我不大能接受小孩子对3c产品依赖过度,虽然真的如你所说能让他们安静。哈哈哈!不过自己还没有小孩,所以也不敢多加评论。
    我想或许你能多准备一些动脑筋的玩具给他,你看,他应付ipad里面的iq游戏都能够掌握得非常好!
    当然,父母以身为教最重要哦!

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    1. 嗯,时代不一样了,喜不喜欢,都得接受。
      过度依赖的确不好,我也不希望Aden会这样。

      我会的,谢谢你!

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  22. Both my girls love iPad but once I hide it, they will eventually forget about it.

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    1. Aden sometimes forget about it too, but when see daddy plays, he will start look for it already.

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  23. You love your baby so much, so it is natural that he will be pampered. Aden learns fast cos he is intelligent like his mama!

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    1. Haha, thanks for the compliment~

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  24. 你觉得父母在这方面需要扮演重要的角色,我也明白偶尔孩子缠住就没办法做私人事情,可是取代品不一定是平板电脑,可以是积木、拼图、粘土等等。不想电子保姆让孩子变成屏奴,就必须在孩子懂得自制(maybe是5岁之后)才放手让他们接触。

    或者你可以试试用其他事物转移他的专注力,尽量减少在Aden面前使用平板电脑等等,没有解决不了的问题,只有不想解决的问题,有懂吗?加油喔!!

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    1. Aden真的是很粘我,我想是因为我24小时都在看顾他的关系。

      嗯,我会的,大家分享意见罢了,不必太在意,anyway谢谢你的留言!

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  25. Yes and no. Control the number of hours he gets to play each day will do but I guess it will be difficult to control the hours but maybe it is out of sight out of mind for Aden? Just keep the ipad from his sight when you don't want him to play it.

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    1. I am doing that, thanks for the comment mun.

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  26. It's going to be rough on the kid if you totally eliminate the gadgets from his life. Since most of them are doing it, he might end up being the odd one out not knowing what his friends are talking about when he starts going to school. This might lead to other problems like self-esteem or rebelliousness. Unfortunately it's going to be a tough balancing act of controlling his access to the gadgets. What worked on us might not necessarily work on our kids :(

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    1. I get your point there, so I think it's all about moderation and balance up the pros and cons ;)

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  27. just like my 6 year-old-month niece, once saw ipad, she is definitely knows how to crawl to touch the screen..lol

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    1. Haha, that's normal for kids these days.

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  28. 人在江湖身不由己~~ 哎~~

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  29. 或许你可以告诉 Aden- iPad 坏了。but of course 你这一句话一出,你也不能再在他的面前玩iPad 咯!

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    1. 我有时没办法时真的这样说。。。

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  30. 以前我们家两个也蛮喜欢玩 ipad 的,不过我没有 download 新的 Apps, 也没有upgrade,他们都显了,呵呵~~

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    1. 蛤?会显哦?那很好耶!你不必烦!=)

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  31. IPad yes but in moderation n on appropriate timing

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  32. Its ok if you limit his exposure to it and make sure he uses it at a correct distance.

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